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Love is not Blind
By Lateef Oladeji of Gem Business Ventures
Love is a very strong feeling of affection and tenderness towards a person (including oneself) or thing. Thus, love could be felt for both living and non-living things. It could be amorous or platonic. Irrespective of the type it is, love makes one to be greatly fond of its object. It gladdens the heart and makes one pleased whenever the object of love is around or is thought of. However, every love has a reason, a cause, a trigger, a consideration or a foundation. No love is blind. Rather, it is the other people, the beholders, who are blind. The person who loves has a reason for the love. It could be a minute aspect of the love object that the other people or beholders have not observed or appreciated, or which could be hidden from them altogether. For instance, in the realm of amorous love, a successful handsome man may fall in love with a seemingly ugly woman, who is also of lowly birth. To the beholder, love (or the man himself) must be blind. On the contrary, the man must have found something in that woman, strong enough to warrant his love for her. At the other extreme, have you ever wondered why a mad man or woman has no lover among the sane? If love were to be blind, mad people would get sane suitors as well. It ought to be pointed out, though, that in some voodoo-practising societies, some ‘sane’ men look for mad women to have an affair with for the purpose of gaining power, money or influence! But the affairs cannot be said to be as a result of genuine amorous love for the mad women involved, but due rather to the love of power, influence or money. Love is different from infatuation. In most cases, infatuation develops instantly on sighting the external features and circumstances of the love object. Love, on the contrary, develops from an appreciation of the hidden features or qualities of the object – and these take more time to discover. Of all objects of love, love of oneself is the basic, predominating and most important one. It is the primary love upon which other types of love depend. This explains the most important injunction of Jesus Christ: Love thy neighbour as thyself. This implies that love of oneself is automatic and inborn, but the love of others requires some effort. It also implies that one cannot love another person or thing more than oneself. Anybody who claims to love another person or thing above himself/herself is simply ignorant of the main reason for the love – the love of oneself. Let us take the example of love for one’s child. This type of love is usually very deep and strong. People often erroneously think that they love their children (or some of them) more than themselves. But is it the child that one loves so much or oneself? It is oneself. In the first instance, why did we bring the child into the world? It was due to certain personal reasons, including the continuation of a family name. So, the love for a child is a derived love – deriving from the love of oneself or the actualization of one’s own aspirations and dreams. This example can be extended to explain the love for a spouse, a pet or a possession, such as a house or a car. We even profess to love God and His messengers. We do so because of the love for ourselves – doing otherwise is believed to be capable of impeding access to heaven. From the foregoing, it is clear that no love is blind. Love is open-eyed in its choice of who and what to love. It is also clear that love of oneself is the most important love; other types of love derive from it.
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As usual, your observations are razor sharp and you don't pull your punches. Thank you for this defining intel on the topic of 'love'.
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Thanks for the 'lovely' comment, Nick. 
Thank you for sharing this interesting intel, Lateef.
Your words sure make one think!!
Keep up the good work.
Best wishes.
Frederick
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You always make my day, Fred. Thank you for the encouraging words.
As Stephen Covey says, Love is a verb. It is active. Thank you for the insight.
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'Love is an active verb'? Meaning that it requires 'give and take' always? I agree with that angle to the insight as well. Thanks, Nora.
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